Mother's Day Project!!~~~~~~~~~The Story and Keepsake behind our adoptive family
This beautiful mom decided to get our memory locket keepsake necklace. It is filled with the birth month flowers of her two precious children!
"My journey to motherhood started almost ten years ago. I had been married for a couple of years, and we decided that we were finally ready to start our family. Little did we know that it would not be as easy as it was supposed to be. Months and month passed, and I still wasn’t pregnant. I was doing all of the tricks that ‘guarantee’ you’ll get pregnant. I was taking all of the well intentioned advice, “Just relax and you’ll get pregnant!” “As soon as you stop trying, you’re definitely going to get pregnant!” “My sister’s cousin’s neighbor’s brother’s wife’s babysitter got pregnant by just by propping up her hips afterwards!” Thanks, guys. Once we hit the one year point, we were able to see a fertility doctor. We ran all of the standard tests, did months of medication and monitoring, and we even tried an IUI (intrauterine insemination). It was all unsuccessful. After over three years of trying to get pregnant, we decided that we were ready to start the adoption process. Unfortunately, it’s not nearly as easy as those people who say, “Why don’t you just adopt?” think that it is. It’s a grueling process that involves have every single aspect of your life looked at. Before you can adopt, you have to get a home study done. This was lots of fun. There’s nothing like telling a complete stranger every single, intimate detail of your life. You know, the important stuff. How much money you have, how much debt you have, if you have a healthy relationship and sex life, what kind of parent you think you’ll be. (A perfect one. Duh.) Stuff like that. They really get all up in your business. That process took about five months, and then we waited to be matched with an expectant mom. The waiting was brutal. You would get calls about potential opportunities to have your profile shown. And if it was shown, then you had to wait and hope that you were chosen. Finally after about 7 months, it was our turn. We were asked to be the parents of a baby boy who would be arriving in less than three months. We were beyond ecstatic. We couldn’t believe that it was finally happening. We told everyone! But unfortunately, it wasn’t meant to be. Once he was born, his mother decided to parent. We were crushed. Though we always knew that it was a possibility; it’s one of the hardest truths of adopting. After grieving the loss, we reminded ourselves that he was never our baby, and that ours was still out there. The wait began again. Luckily for us, we didn’t have to wait very long this time. Not even a month later, we received a call about another expectant mom who wanted to meet us. A few days later, we made the five hour drive to meet her. She was beautiful, sweet, and prepared with a list of questions! We had a great visit with her and her parents. We answered all of her questions openly and honestly and hoped for the best. Just a few short days later, we found out that she wanted us to parent the baby girl that she was carrying. Once again, we were thrilled, but much more cautiously optimistic this time around. We only told a select few this time. After two months of waiting and building a relationship with this incredible woman, we welcomed our daughter into the world. The day we met our little girl was one of the most bittersweet days of my life. It was the happiest day of my life, but it came at the expense of it being the hardest day of our daughter’s first mom’s life. Adoption is a complete emotional roller coaster. There are so many twists, turns, ups and down. What a wild ride! Three years later, we would do it all over again. We welcomed our son into the world shortly after our daughter turned three. It was a completely different experience the second time around. But they both have their own, unique stories of how they came to us. Today, we maintain wonderful relationships with both sets of our kids’ birth parents and various members of their families. We love what open adoption has done for our family. Without those four amazing people who created our amazing children, we wouldn’t even be a family. It was a long, treacherous road to parenthood, but I would do it over one hundred times to get the chance to be mommy to my two little loves."
a huge thank you to Theresa from Sapphire Images for the beautiful photography of this amazing family